If you have the same problem as I do, with contacting others by phone, there are a few things that do help make the process a bit easier. I recommend the following tips to help counteract your anxiousness:
- Keep a list of what points you want to make.
The list needs to be easy to follow. Try adding all points to one page, while still keeping them concise and legible. - Lower the number of distractions and heighten your sense of security.
For example: I needed to close the door (to my office) enough so that I don't feel added pressure of others listening-in. - Support without the criticism.
It's important to be compassionate to yourself. Don't go punishing yourself if it takes you longer to "gather courage." I actually took a couple hours to prepare. If you don't seem to budge, take on the "I'll do it when I want to" attitude. This takes off internal pressures off your shoulders. - Have a purpose.
The best way to figure out why you "should" call, is to write down a sentence of why you want to call, or how it will benefit you. This will help give yourself some incentives to proceed. - Opening the conversation.
If you have completed the previous tips, they will help you with figuring out what to say. I find that preparing a couple sentences to explain my reason for calling, helps. After that, your natural instincts to carry a conversation will kick in, and you might not even need your list of points.
