Challenging Fear by Asking Questions

Today, after seeking counsel, I was asked:

"So there is resistance with making the telephone calls. Why do you believe this is happening?"

I tried to provide a logical answer; fear of the unknown, fear of embarrassment, and fear of failure. As I was typing out this reply, bottled feelings began to surface.

"No one has as much power over me, as my brother does; especially after my own tendency to put him on a pedestal. I'd say he's the only person whom I feel will not accept me as is. There is a strong sense of judgement, that comes from how he speaks to me. I didn't realize this until now…"

I am no longer so surprised that I was scared. Theoretically, anything I do will be criticized, regardless of whether it is right, wrong, ethical, or not.

Let me pose another question: why do I put my brother in such high regard? More importantly, how can I change the amount of power I give his ego?

Habitual Over-Thinking

Lately, I have found myself over-analyzing just about everything. "It" has made its presence known particularly as I try to develop my own business ideas. Regardless of why I do it, I believe the more important question is, what can I do to correct the bad habit, and increase life satisfaction.

I've been working on a project that requires me to call a few local businesses for quotations and estimated costs. (Now, let me just say, I avoid making phone calls—just as you would avoid the plague. Okay, I am exaggerating. Here's a more accurate dilemma: I will only call my closest friends if I can't find a way to explain myself through text messaging.)

Part of being an entrepreneur, is living as "a person who is willing to help launch a new venture or enterprise and accept full responsibility for the outcome." (Wikipedia, 2012, para.1). I want to point out the fact that success is not a factor, here. I even believe that the product/service idea being new, has nothing to do with being an innovator. Rather, how you present the idea, is what makes a difference. Notice how businesses always have some direct or indirect competitors. Whether they know about these competitors is a different story.

Returning to the initial purpose of this post; I want to correct or at least cope with my fear. Avoidance postpones the inevitable. Why should I spend all that extra time on worrying about what to say? Relax and it will come to me when I am in that moment. Maybe my problem has nothing to do with "getting fixed," but perhaps my problem lies with leaving my past behind and learning to create a new future of possibilities—ones that don't stem from the premise of fear and expectations.

So, am I ready to leave my past feelings of embarrassment behind? We shall see!

Preface

Hey there; the name's Red Kay!

I am an aspiring artist, amateur musician, milk tea junkie and entrepreneur. I want to share my learning experiences, through the use of this personal blog.

Without setting things in stone, Keep Up // Keep Casual will focus on all things related to how I will eventually define my own personal success.

I'll admit that part of reaching out like this, comes from a yearn to connect with people on an intellectual level. I want to make connections with people of similar values, that generally reside in the same country (Canada).

Let me clarify that this is not meant to be a personal ad (even if it sounds like one).